Totally stuck!

I semm to have got myself stuck for the past few weeks and unable to move forward with any of the remaining quests I have. Maybe they are linked and I need to do something with one of them to kickstart the others or something, either way, I am at a loss..
The kidnapped wife quest, I can not do because the husband will not give me the rum.
I can not get further with the thieves guild as I have entered the thieves guild, gone back to the mysterious man and he just tells me I do not have what he needs. What does he want??
I found out who the jewellery shop thief is but I no longer have the jewels to return them and the shop is closed anyway..
I can not advance in regard to the main mission as I have no idea how to advance with it as I can not seem to come across any information about the governor or the returning..
These are the only things left and I have been going round in circles for weeks now.
Pease can someone help me??
I dont want to have come this far for nothing!
Thanks a lot
The kidnapped wife quest, I can not do because the husband will not give me the rum.
I can not get further with the thieves guild as I have entered the thieves guild, gone back to the mysterious man and he just tells me I do not have what he needs. What does he want??
I found out who the jewellery shop thief is but I no longer have the jewels to return them and the shop is closed anyway..
I can not advance in regard to the main mission as I have no idea how to advance with it as I can not seem to come across any information about the governor or the returning..
These are the only things left and I have been going round in circles for weeks now.
Pease can someone help me??

Thanks a lot